Video Games – our very human desire for escapism


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I love video games. Ever since playing DUCK HUNT on the (NES) Nintendo 8-bit, I’ve been sold on them with a vengeance. Despite still enjoying them now, as I’ve gotten older I’m starting to see video games with a new perspective. If video games have proven anything to so many people it’s that the fantasy of new experiences trumps reality. Experience demands freedom, and this is a powerful thing, and what a varied and crazy mix of experiences offered in a video game (ones of sufficient decent depth.)

Anyone who knows me, knows I grew up as an avid gamer, and truth games that offer compelling and immersive stories (or huge worlds) compel me the most. Sorry to disappoint anyone, but this won’t be a specific video game review, but perhaps something a bit deeper, so stick with it! As of late I’ve been trying to focus more on increasing my experience points and level with a very important game; the game of EXISTING, I’m giving more credence every day on the idea that REALITY actually trumps FANTASY…but I’ll admit it’s been a hard sell, because the sort of freedom found in so many games is intoxicating; not only the freedom of action, skill and movement, but most intriguing, the freedom from consequence. Most of all, these open-world design games grant us the ability to be totally reckless (even “evil” for a time) – Stealing from and killing people, committing all manner of crimes (think: Watchdogs, Grand Theft Auto, etc.), and we don’t think twice about doing it in these games…well, many of us don’t. (I usually have somewhat of a moral qualm, even though I’ll suppress it often to “experience” what happens next.)

The truth is, if we dig deeper into these video games and their characters, we realize that there is no way (most of us) would choose be those characters at all, even if we were somehow afforded divine power and could make it happen. It’s a fun thought on the surface as we sit there holding a controller, but most people would shy away (and many run away screaming) from so many of the events that occur in games like Watchdogs, Halo, Gears of War, Grand Theft Auto and so many others. We wouldn’t be the heroes featured and controlled on the screen; we would more likely be the innocent passerby being gunned down or ran over by some crazed sociopath collecting “points” or “credits”.

Video Games – our very human desire for escapism

As humans, we are overwhelmingly attracted to what we don’t already have. We want to escape from the common things and try something else…even people who profess to have everything they need, still want something. This is true even in the short term…If it’s too hot, we want it cold. If it’s too cold, we want it hot. If it’s perfectly temperate, we’d like to drink something hot or cold…so these feelings of satisfaction are ALWAYS temporal, and this appears to be ingrained into us. Guilty as charged!

In my own life, being older now, at 37, I’ve come to realize that it’s new experience most people lack in life that leaves discontentment and a longing in the heart; the experience of meeting new people, the experience of going to new places (this is a huge one), and these all creates a deep emptiness in us, demanding to be filled. Some video games fill this void in a very artificial way (for a brief time), but they can’t give a person the long term satisfaction that a life; one better LIVED with REAL EXPERIENCE can provide.

I want to encourage you to start doing exactly this. Find more time to do the things you love, and when possible with the people you care about (yes, even if that’s playing video games), but above all, mix it up and experience new things, force yourself out of habits and patterns of a “typical day”, because we all have a temporary amount of time in this world, and we should make the most of it.

For me, I do this with the dream of granting myself more time to cherish my life by broadening my experience and skills. To grow where otherwise I would stagnate. One way to do this for many of us is to contribute in what small way we can toward others and THEIR experience…always remembering that we have the potential to leave a legacy behind for those we love when it’s time to check out…

Do you also want more time to do the things that matter to you “out there” IN REALITY, or are you content mostly living mostly in fantasies created by other minds? Do you live your life doing the things you hate while only dreaming of what you love? Share your thoughts below.


My stay at home Dad quest begins!

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Stay at home Dad quest. GO!

I work  a full time job at home already…

Don’t get me wrong, working at home has its major advantages…unfortunately it’s still not the same working for your own business (at home), which would afford a much greater degree of freedom then employment working for company A-Z. (true if you work at home or not) – My Stepdaughter (compliments of my lovely wife) will be arriving from the Philippines to live with me in America (Ohio) in about 1-2 months and I really want to start building a more secure life and future for her….ENTER: the need for more $$$, which translates to even more freedom.

After a grueling and long search throughout the years, I’ve just recently discovered an incredible new way to make money EVERY-SINGLE-DAY online which I believe will make my TRUE Stay at home dad / work at home Dad dream come true! Anyone who knows me, knows I am not prone to being ripped-off, or fooled by any internet/computer scam. Heck I could out-scam virtually any scammer out there (if I were so inclined by lacking the ethical backbone I have); believe me I’ve heard all the many MLM/pyramid/click-revenue schemes out there; and studied the systems they employ in-depth (why they don’t work, how they fool you, etc) and this one I’m talking about is proving to me that it’s totally LEGIT. The people behind this system are transparent about the whole process from start to finish;

Having money drop into your account on a daily basis tends to make you a firm believer that it’s working….and I clearly see this is the case of what’s happening for those who put a little time and effort into it. What’s more impressive to me about this marketing/online pay system where you work at home (as long as you have an internet connection), is that you invest NO $$ to get it going. When it is running and making you money, you don’t have to wait some 15-30-60 days and earn a certain amount to cash out, etc.., you get PAID every single day when the payments actually hit (straight to your bank acct via direct deposit OR Paypal, or for the few dinosaurs out there via CHECK if you insist…) – thankfully this stay at home Dad is a professional Geek, so super fast payment = no problem.

But who is paying? Fortune 500 companies pay you. They pay you for signing up people for simple trials (often free) so you aren’t selling directly for them, YOU are just sending a link out and the page/enrollment process the person lands on does the rest…walks them through it from point A-Z, you certainly won’t be paid by me, or the nice folks I signed up with for all of this knowledge; they merely provided me FREE video instructional step-by-step on HOW do get this Affiliate Marketing system rolling…How many times have you seen “make money” opportunities that want you to pay $19.99 or $49 or some lump amount up front? Think about it, if those systems were so successful and made the creators so wealthy, why do they need your paltry $49? Well that’s not the case with this one, so it’s truly unique in a sea of greedy grabbers and I’m grabbing at it!  You have to work, so work smart!

I figure these Fortune 500 companies have more than enough money, why not have a share a piece of the pie, and they get an easier promotion of their products? No selling/buying is needed, you are just ultimately sharing a link to as many people as you can, in as many places as you can, in as many WAYS as you can (avoiding being a spammer) AND ALL of this is taught by these nice people. (ex: how to get your link made/accredited, how to market this link and increase your leads dramatically, etc) all of this is done via the sign up video, supported by step-by-step videos found on their CLOSED members-only Facebook page (which has over 9,100 members as of this post, freely posting and sharing ideas, etc…it’s really nice. Again, I stress the F-word, no not that one, the other one: it’s ALL FREE)

The TRUE cost to be a stay at home dad (or a stay at home mom)

Some personal TIME and some mild EFFORT is needed (like any rewarding job…it’s not handed over to you in a silver platter). Thus far the work at home for me has consisted of mostly copy/pasting links to various accounts/sites, preparing small snippet ADS for posting, creating social media accounts/blogs (not websites, just accounts), finding reputable free classified-ads, etc…all stuff to build the foundation. This is the work I’m still doing at this point, but if I’m right about this, I’ve hit PAY-DIRT and I will be seeing greater results as time goes on. I plan on updating my success with this in later posts.

Stick with me and find out how deep this well goes! Stay at home Dad-hood here I come!

If you want to ride the same wave with me, here’s your surfboard: